Thanks Being Me! It's always a fine line for me, trying to let STBX deal with the life she has made for herself and being a responsible co-parent. Yesterday it just felt like it was time to step in a little and help her out. When she talks to me about D14 I never tell her what she should do, I just listen and empathize with the struggles she is having. She knows she needs to not react, walk away etc but often doesn't and feels badly about it, she doesn't need me preaching at her what she already knows. She takes the brunt of D14's badgering because she is Mom. It felt so nice yesterday to be with my family, as a family. STBX was attentive, personable and I could actually feel she enjoyed being with me yesterday. I don't see this as any breakthrough but I think she appreciated that I was there and we took on the big shopping adventure together. It was nice to have a really pleasant day together. When we were together we went everywhere as a family, did everything together but not anymore and that is the reality of separation. I'm not there to intercede between STBX and D14 so it's now largely on her own shoulders. She made her bed and I think she's feeling the lumps in it right now!
