lan - I believe that one of the major problems in my marriage was me failing to meet my W's physical needs - too absorbed in other things and not emotionally available to her in the way that is needed for a meaningful physical relationship to flourish.
But, i did not appreciate the depth of hurt experienced by my W as a result or any real understanding of its importance - I think Kalni's suggested approach is spot on - it communicates things in such a was as would have made a difference to me I think.
Can you find your own words for Kalni's "theme" ? Would these feel comfortable to you?
KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years