Lan, I have never been in your wife's shoes, all my life I have been in your shoes (I think) so I dont know what is the right way to aproach such a discussion, especially since your wife seems to have a very defensive attitude towards this. Granted you mentioned a medical condition I hope the drugs dont kill her libido. But whatever you say IMO should be along the lines "wife, I miss ML to you because that's the another way for me expressing my love, I feel closer to you when we do, I love your body and you and it's a pity we dont do that often. I hope you still find me attractive and I would love to expand our "repertoire" in this field etc etc ". You know my English is hairy but what I am trying to point out is not go off telling her your "needs" are not being met because I dont think she would like that kind of talk... Just my 2 cents (or less) Love K
