It always seems to pour at once! I am so glad that you guys keep working well together and he was able to help you without you even really noticing that you needed help. Take care of yourself too sweetie. Hugs.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I like that you and your XH are being good friends and co-parents. And yet, you are both slowly and gradually healing and moving on with your seperate lives. I personally think sometimes a long and gradual divorce is good. Because it allows the time to heal during a tumultious time.
Getting together as a couple takes time, and uncoupling takes time as well. I think trying to rush it can be much more emotionally difficult and can lead to mistakes, anger, and much more pain. It doesn't erase the emotions, but it seems like they aren't so painfully deep, steep or dramatic.
Keep hanging in there. Try to stay positive! Always look for those silver linings...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Hey Friend, sorry to hear about your princess getting sick. Root is such a wise soul and I agree with the "uncoupling" aspect of things. I am glad he is respecting your boundaries, but sad that he has allowed the relationship to deteriate as far as it has. At least he is finacially supporting you and the children. I am truly hoping for the best for you.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
D4 is back!! She is spunky as ever and happy. I love it.
Had a great weekend.
One vent: I hate that D6's school is 'tainted'. I see former OW at least once a week, sometimes more. It hurts less these days, I ignore, smile, do everything right. But darnit.
D6 talked me into a fundraiser Friday night. I was tired, it was SO busy (I had my 2 girls and 3 other kids with me, alone), and we ended up in line right behind OW and her family. I was struggling to get dinner for the kids, struggling to smile, struggling to look happily divorced. I did it, but blah!!!!
OW's H, of course, was so nice, even helped me a bit. Bet that kills OW but guess who doesn't care? ME!
Other than that, great weekend. Looking forward to the holidays, started shopping for the girls and my nieces and nephews. My favorite time of the year!!!!
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and uncoupling takes time as well.
ROOT, so so true in many ways. Financially, but also emotionally. I find I have no stories to tell right now. All my stories shared in small talk have xH in them. Its soooo darn weird!
LWB, I'm so sorry for not checking up on you. You have been through the ringer, but of course handled it so well. How in the world do you do it? You are the true SUPERWOMAN! Sounds like things are getting back to normal, well as normal, as they can be.
Glad things are better for you. Your little girls are so lucky to have a mommy like you!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Super rough day all over, but its ending now. I am going home!
D4 is horribly abnormally clingy to me. Its not good. SallyM talked me through major drama with her this morning.
xH is spending his divorce money on frivolous items (textbook, should have known): nice truck he does NOT need, and apparently a vacation in February, to our honeymoon spot.
He was also 2 hours late today. Yep.
I have decided to decline his family's invitations to the holiday stuff this week. I sent an email, they totally understand. Just hurts too much right now. It'll get better. Looking forward to time with the girls and my family, nice and relaxing!
lwb....I think our children cycle just like we do. One moment there is acceptance, the next hurt and anger. It will get better with time, for all of you.
Why was ExH so late? Did he contact you to let you know? That just does not seem kind to do to your children. I hope he is not stil playing the "ME ME ME ME" card.
I think it is probably wise that you decline the "family" invitation. As much as you love them, they are "his" in the divorce. It does not mean that you can not do things with them or feel connected to them still, but when it comes to special events or holidays he will get them first. Blood is thicker than anything.
Did I read that your H is bringing a DATE to a company party? I thought he was still flying solo. ((HUGS)) I dont know how you do it, but it must have hurt anyway. LWB, you ae such a wonderful person and a great mother. You are taking the time you need to heal properly, he is chasing the feel good for the moment. You will be the one who moves to a healthier place, he will continue to search for the greener pastures. You are so loved....dont forget it! Stay strong.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
Thanks so much for sharing how life evolves. My heart goes out to that anguishing time in the hospital.. but I'm so happy that your youngest recovered so well.
The change in 'what is family' is so strange with divorce. But then again, new beginnings are just that.. new... yours to own. What a precious gift to give to your girls.
