TxMom- help I'm still hopeful -#2 post

[Superstar]

Hi TxMom, been thinking about you.

I don't know if/when you H will decide to file for D, but once he does it is very important that you get a good lawyer and FAST.

As I am sure you know, here in a Texas only one party is required for a divorce, and with a 62 day term, you will not have a lot of time to protect yourself.

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

PS: I actually live in Allen also (Watters Crossing), I just said Plano because even a lot of people from Texas never heard of Allen.

GO EAGLES!

[TxMomw/2girls]

Hello all....

Sunday evening and I'm watching my Cowboys tonight... love them!!! hope we pull out a win!

Well H has been around all weekend off and on. I cried it seemed most the day (off and on) Saturday- not in front of him... just been so sad actually and missing the guy I married and have loved for almost 10yrs.

We all went to lunch on Saturday and after I agreed I questioned why I let him... I was so sad afterwards.. I feel like saying to him.. what was so bad about this?? We laugh, he plays with our 6 month old making her laugh and all seems normal for a moment in time. I look at his face or hands and just want to kiss his cheeks or grab his hand... He keep the girls at his place Saturday night and I went out with a friend...

I woke up today and felt so much better and in a great mood, no tears today, went to this new church I'm going to now, had to go shop for a bit and then came home. H was here with the girls and I was in the bedroom with D4 wrapping 3 b-day gifts and H and our 6month old were laying on the bed.. He was playing with both daughters. I don't really give him much attention but I make sure to be happy, make comments to my daughter about stuff.. my D4 and I baked cookies before the b-day party we had to go too... so today at least there was no "faking it" for me I was just my happy self, I was just enjoying my girls and the things I had to get done around the house.. so H saw a very fun, pleasant wife... I was only here about 3 hours when H was here....

My question is, guys opinion and anyone who has called a DB coach, I constantly struggle with how much do I let him around... he is cake eating to a degree BUT him being here with my girls helps me and I get to be around them.. I struggle not seeing them (remember I travel for my job too so not like I'm home all the time during the week) When he has the girls overnight he keeps them at his apartment... but during the day or when I travel for work he stays at the house.

Should I start enforcing him to keep girls at his place during the week, during the day time too? Some of you have always said if he wants to come around, have lunch etc. let him the more opportunity to see me in a positive light and not be with OW... but I also think it really just helps him, he gets the best of both worlds.. sometimes I care and don't want him around and sometimes like this weekend it was easy for me and I wasn't bothered with him being here...

I really don't think either way is going to make him change his mind...today at least... I think Phoneix said on Amy's thread that a man needs a chase.... stop being so nice, play hard to get, don't make it easy for him... but my H has the OW so far up his A$$ that he wouldn't notice or care to "chase" me right now... not sure.. Puppy usually has great advise too on this...

so thoughts..... have him around and play nice, cheerful, etc.. or be short, pleasant but distant and not see him or deal with him much... once again my moods change so much I go back and forth on this.... help!!!

[Superstar]

As long as a man can get away with the best of both worlds, he will continue to do so.

Nothing in this process has helped me more than going dark.

[TxMomw/2girls]

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[Superstar]

What's happening?

Any updates?

I posted a few (wink).

[Tawnya]

{{{Tx}}} How are you doing today my friend??

Tawnya

[TxMomw/2girls]

thanks all ... I haven't had time to post but I do have updates and will post soon...

thanks for checking in too ..

[Little Engine]

TxMom--Hope you are having a good weekend. Is everything good? bad? What is going on?

LE

[TxMomw/2girls]

I know guys I've been so busy and I do have updates.. not sure now if I could get them all out it would be too long of a post.... I'm at cowboys game tomorrow so I will post tomorrow night.. I don't have the mind to do it now..

thanks LE for checking on me.

[Superstar]

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