Your h isn't actually focusing on his issues because he's still interacting w/you, i.e., kids, etc. That's fine, but you have to remember, the divorce is what is driving his train right now and until he steps over the finish line of divorcing you, he's going to be focusing more on it and not on working on himself.
I have an inkling...the finish line, filing D with the timing as it is, it in some part motivated by his realization of blowing it.
You know...he had quit his job, started another. Now, he says he should have stayed with the old job. He said, you think the grass will be greener, but it isn't really...you get to know the people and it's not better, just different.
I stood there just staring....DUH!!
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
