I was hoping........he'd realize all this when he gets the reply to his vague D papers.
One thing that confuses me, and actually makes me a little angry is to continue as if we will be some Disney Channel family. I might be more comfortable if he were cold to me. (I guess that's why I'm supposed to be detached-friendly with him, huh?)
I just don't have any respect left for him after the D papers.
He's dismissed me...I just don't want to acknowledge his existence any more than I have to.
By the way....he is, and has not, done anything to get together with the kids...At ALL. It's the same as has been since he left. If there is a soccer game, or if things just present themselves to him, he spends time with the kids.
He makes little to zero effort to be with his kids.
s10 asked to go walk around the sporting good store after his soccer game, H said he had to get back to work.
If he asks about Thanksgiving I'll tell him what the kids and I have planned. He is welcome as always. I have never said he couldn't come to anything.
I'm uncomfortable being around him...but, I can do it if it is an important part of DBing.
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
