Worse before Better?

[Sophie]

thanks Snodderly...Just the 'reinforcement' I need right now.

But...

Are you saying it's going to be a VERY long time to realize what they have done...from what point??? When this all started??? This divorce decision comes after 3-4 years of crap.

He's been making destructive decisions for 4 years!!! This last one is the most unintellectual decision, ever!!


Anyway....

I made it through the soccer game!! WHEW....I looked good....OH..I ran 3 miles today in 38 degree weather.

Anyway, H shows up and acts like nothing has changed from before D papers.... And I realize, just because the sheriff brought me a letter (and we all know it wasn't a love letter)....nothing has changed.... yet.

I feel a bit 'off the hook' to be his super friend...I suppose I could have been friendlier,but I just see H as...weird.

I was relaxed and was content enough to just be another soccer parent.

I can tell H is relieved that I haven't said anything to the kids. I am glad I haven't. I think it will be good for him to observe how happy, healthy and full of life they are...and have been for most of the seperation.

I realize, if I tell the kids about H's D-decision...I am helping him.

Let him be the one to tell them. Right?

Since H has been in his own place...2 1/2 years....all holidays have been handled by ME...(except the first Easter, which was H's first weekend in his bachelor pad)...since then, I continued all family traditions and H partakes or doesn't. Last Thanksgiving he was too depressed.

Especially now...inviting him to Thanksgiving would be pursuing right?

I shouldn't invite him, right?