naej- I'm not sure how H would react to an e-mail from you, but it'd be amusing to see! Thankyou for viting me- I love to see you!
Ali- I don't need to speak to H to speed up my decision making. I'll make my decisions when I'm ready, and why should I speed up my decision-making in any case? (This is a rhetorical question- I know the answer, which is that I don't need to make a decision now). My life is NOT on hold. I'm NOT waiting for H to come back. I'm LIVING. IF H ever comes back, the R with aubergine will be something that needs dealing with. For now, it's unimportant. And if he ever decides he wants to work things out I'll decide whether to take him back depending on my then circumstances. Yes, laughing, talking and discussing the world is good communication to me, considering that we could easily never speak to each other at all. H and I are friends, hence the contact. And no, I'm not DBing him in the sense of winning him back- I haven't done that for a good 2-3 months now. I'm DBing by being detached and getting on with own life. Enjoying my picnic and letting him deal with his MLC.
