I agree. Time to pull back again. WAYYYY back. Let her miss you a little.
Puppy
Originally Posted By: beej
Yep, that's what I meant by that one statement you asked about...pull wayyyyyyyy back and I do think she should be taking equal amount of time picking them up from your house as well (the house you both lived in). Make sure your house is full of happiness when she comes. Show the strong, funny, great dad h4h when she stops to get the kids. Focus on the kids. Focus on your job. Stay away from the parasites. Make dinner, do laundry, play some board games with the kids, do a family project, etc. together. Focus on that. She will want to be a part of that!!!! She will see it, hear about it, ...want it.
Originally Posted By: doc
hey H4H,
How Ya doing? WDID has great advice. I am here in our time share by myself BUT...Tomarrow W will be here... Our first real by ourselves date.. We will get through this buddy.. keep the faith
Doc
Puppy, I assume you've kept up a little, just haven't said much. Thank you.
Beej, I plan on pulling back as much as I can and have less focus on my sitch. More focus on me. And my kids.
At least pulling back as much as possible with the holidays here. Not sure if agreeing to having Thanksgiving together was such a hot idea.
It perpetuates her original thinking that we'll still do all the family holiday stuff together, just not BE together. She had told my ex SIL this and even she thought she was deluded.
And yet, here we are. Spending Halloween together, spending Thanksgiving together and quite possibly Christmas.
Just not sure what the right thing is concerning this.
Doc, I am actually doing really good. Sounds like your doing VERY well. Thats great. I know you've worked hard. I will keep that faith.
I had to come into work today. My girls did not want to go to grandma's last night, so they stayed home today.
BTW, thanks for the chat, Yenko.
Need to figure what we are gonna do today. Someone told me about a local University that has a big deal of lighting Christmas lights and I think the Riverwalk should be lit soon.
And OF COURSE!
As I'm writing this, the wife responded to the last email that I sent to her last night. I'm sure she left work just before I sent it. The last one I sent was in response to her having "blonde moments" all day and that she just got my "lasagna" joke. I told her she was goofy, and made reference to her "new" dye job, that I don't particularly care for, and asked why she was still at work.
She just sent me,
"Hey, you don’t have to agree with me silly, lol I had to stay late yesterday"
She is trying to be playful?
How can I not respond?
Don't respond, don't respond.
Right?
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
