Onward and Upward - Part 8!

[glamgirl]

Thanks TL. No word from h today. I just left him a message to see if he was coming over today or not. This is the common courtesy thing that bothers me.

I have NO idea whether he made it back from Idaho, but I assume he did. A call or e-mail saying I made it back in one piece would be nice.

I guess the thoughtfulness goes out the window at this point. Back in the day, h wouldn't of missed an opportunity to say ILY and on my way home or whatever.

Is common courtesy too much to ask?

[happynow]

Hi Glam,

For now I agree, you including your H with even the little things like buying clothes is a good thing. I'm sure he will appreciate it. My H was like that too, would call me all thru the day just to tell me he loves me & even on his way home from work (10 miles) he would call & most of the time talk to me the whole time. I just miss that so much.

You are doing great, hang in there!!!

((((HUGS))))

[MidwesternGirl]

GG:

My h is not the type to "check in" to say he made it back from somewhere and I think this is part of the mlc.

I am not sure if they think of them calling as common courtesy and may instead think of it as checking in and they don't always like to do that.

I think it would be a nice gesture if he would call and tell you he got here okay but they don't think like we do.

[glamgirl]

H came over around 5pm yesterday. He was really sick. Asked what we should do. We went to dinner with d4 and then to pick up over the counter medicine for h. s6 was at a friends house.

H said he almost missed his flight and he said he left me a message. I didn't get a message, but I have had messages dump into my phone days late before. So maybe he was being courteous and I just didn't know it. He volunteered this info I didn't ask.

When he was driving over he called and said yeah who I am almost home. He said he was excited to be coming home. Now we hadn't seen h since Mon. I just said oh h your coming home for good? His response what do you mean I am always at the house. I said oh then I keep missing you in bed. Convo dropped from there.

We just snuggled on the couch after dinner. H reminisced about our early dating days and our sex life. Now it was pretty good back then. Now it's maybe once per month if I am lucky. Not complaining here, at least I am getting that, oh heck I am complaining. I want it more than once per month. I do know that the AD's affect h's drive. Glam be patient here!

H said I got your text you spent $100 on clothes for the kids. I said yes they needed a few things. He was fine with it I guess. D4 looked so cute in her new clothes showing them off to her daddy. She is such a princess girl.

Then h left and asked me to pick up a few things at the grocery store for him when he comes on Sunday. He said he was really sick and was going to rest all day on Sat. I am fine with that, I am going to shop for the Thanksgiving meal and watch movies today.

Well not a bad day. Didn't get to see h much. He was very nice. Not sure if that was because he was sick or he hasn't see us lately. He was NOT moody or grouchy. He gets that way when he is hungry or stressed.

I let h know his mom and dad called yesterday. They asked for h's phone number. I gave it to them. H was fine with me giving it to his brother a few weeks ago. I know h's family wants my h to come home and the R be mended for the family. Not sure when that will all happen. Glam one step at a time!

[glamgirl]

Missing my h today. I only saw him on Mon and Fri night this week and last night he was sick so only for a few hours.

I didn't expect to hear from him today. He said he was going to rest all day.

I shopped for all the Thanksgiving food items. I am really looking forward to eating that day.

Well, h will be here tomorrow. We will have to see what the day brings.

[MidwesternGirl]

I hope your h is feeling better soon. Is there anything special you can make for him that will help with his sickness like a special soup you make?

Take care of him tomorrow as I know you will!!

[glamgirl]

Thanks MWG. I am not a soup maker, so that won't be happening. I will probably just pick up a pre-made chicken and then serve some rice and veggies.

I have to work today. I am thinking h will be over around noon. I hope he is feeling better.

My back is killing me again. Don't know what is up with that.

[Upside]

Hi glam-
I admire how you are handling everything. Every time you start to run low on patience and understanding, you seem to somehow find more. I am sure you can continue to find the strength to to see this through.

I hope your H is feeling better soon and that your back pain goes away.

Take care.

[glamgirl]

Not much to report. H was sick on Monday and texted and asked if s20 could watch the kids after school since h wasn't in a position to. I said that was fine.

I called him today and left him a nice v-mail. I said goodmorning hubby. H called about an hour ago and left me a v-mail thanking me for the nice message today. He said he couldn't help on Wed with the kids either. S20 is helping again. I am not exactly pleased but h did leave me a really nice v-mail. s20 is on vacation from work so he has been a bit more accomodating. I just hate to burden him with the kids since they are not his.

H didn't say what time he would be over on Thanksgiving. I am thinking he is coming, since he hasn't said otherwise, but we just haven't seen h much at all in the past week.

Happy Thanksgiving All!

[MidwesternGirl]

Glam:

If it makes you feel any better, H said he would see me on Thanksgiving and I asked about what time he would be here since it is a big dinner I am preparing. He said early afternoon but he could not commit to a time.