I find the more I treat my wife as a best friend, the more she takes advantage of this. IMO It also sends the message that the safety net is there and strong, she can have her cake and chow down whenever she feels like it.
Being distant and kind in a civil way is about all you can do besides praying. I've never prayed so much and so hard in my life.
I see clear examples of my prayers being answered. This and my children are what keeps me going.
