Piecing Friends, My W had a meltdown last night. I think the stressors related to her foot injury have caught-up with her.
I too have been feeling the loss of social connection and recreation related to the absence of dancing. We haven't done an adequate job of replacing it with another activity in the interim. We've tried going to dance venues, just to go out, and have left frustrated with the situation and each other.
I slept in the guest room last night, as she seemed to want space from me and the puppy.
I'll review an email she sent earlier in the week regarding household cleaning and yard maintenance that she wants done. She feels like household chores are falling behind, so is calling on me to pick-up the slack. Her mother was not available this week to help assist her.
Saturday is my only day when I'm rested enough to do household chores and run errands.
I'll work on her list today, and request her feedback this weekend. I'll ignore comments that are not constructive. If she wants to escalate her own behavior and emotions, that's up to her.
I went to bed feeling discouraged, but will work on keeping my mind at-ease.
I'm finding it hard to communcate in-person with her. It's a struggle. It's easier to let her talk, and keep quiet. It's best to communicate via email when topics are charged.
She wants me to work on keeping a positive attitude. I think she wants me to be present when I'm with her. I don't know what to do when I'm struggling with my own emotions. I feel obligated to be with her when I'm home from work, but also need space. It's a dilemma.
She did say to call her on it when she's showing a bad attitude. I may take her up on it, at some point, if she seems receptive to it.
I'll work on communication via email, in-person when she's willing, and work on getting my mind at-ease. I'll work on the household items that are important to her, and run errands that are needed. I believe we're invited to a party tonight, so will go and enjoy myself, unless she doesn't want me to go with her.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
