The Soap Suds Contiue

[kelaaron]

MT-glad to see you are up and awake. I too have heard the you only want me happy with you speech. I swear they give them all the same book. You just want things your way. Yes I think I might cut down the drinking. At least you. You can't control him, but it will help you control your reactions to him.

I think it was good that you put your boundary out there. Of course he didn't react well. You told him you didn't like what he is doing and that you actually are aware of it all. I almost think it surprises them how much we know. Even without "proof" we know them. And right now they don't feel like they know themselves.

Like Hope, my H is finally starting to see how much I'm hurting too. But 6 months ago, I would text "I miss you" and he would send back "why", like he really couldn't figure it out. Like he felt like I shouldn't miss him because I didn't care at all.

I want to agree with Hope, for all three of us, that if they didn't care, they wouldn't be at home still. My H has actually told me he isn't ready for a R with anyone right now. I bet they all sort of feel that way and if they got too serious with the OP, then that would be an R like at home.

Get some rest, be positive in your mind, don't apologize for the boundary or how you feel, and let him choose.

And yes Hope, I agree. There are times I just want to tell H I'm tired of both of us hurting and it is time for him to just grow up and get back into life, since he is the one doing all of it. But you can't say it so.........Life with MLC I guess.