Why dont you just talk to your H? Its nearly Christmas. Its gone far enough, dont you think?? All this staunch, absolute, rigid, cast-iron NO R TALKS DBing. What do you think would really happen if you just tried to have a little talk with him? Do you really think he would freak out? Not speak to you anymore? No way!
I dont think a speck of damage was done to my sitch from my huge overblown-awash with tears-intense talk...and I'm not suggesting you try that!
Its true..as soon as you let go, break the pscychic connection, they can sense it! It happened, he's gone into email overdrive! Maybe his holiday was cr*p afterall!? Did you reply to his lunch invitation?
I was going to post on my thread that I wouldnt date.. but the door was open if an amazing man came along. CEO is an amazing man. You clearly are falling for him. He has clearly fallen for you (my god! He actually said "CEO: When you say it makes you want to touch it, are you thinking that you'd like to be thrown against it naked and ravaged by a large and powerful man on it?" at work !!!???? That is too funny Lisa! What have you done to the poor man, he has lost his marbles !!! He has like a flashing light on his head and a loud speaker announcing "I WANT LISA!"). You have him eating out of your palm...
You answered your own question, you did a massive list of reasons why this guy is the answer to your prayers. The only thing I can see wrong with him, is, he is not your H.
You said.."obviously I should just carry on steering a neutral path and seeing what H and CEO do while not committing to any drastic action on either front."... um, no, not obviously! I dont think you should do that, but its up to you! Why do you continue to just "wait and see"...your H has been dating someone else since July 07 !?? Thats long enough for one of you to break the silence and make some kind of move/decision/talk??
I really dont get why you dont just ask him something about it, or how he feels or what he is doing, or even if he is ok/happy. Just start some dialogue with him. What are you afraid of?
You say "I don't understand how H could have run off with an aubergine just like that when we were living together. It makes no sense".. so ASK HIM !? What have you got to lose at this point? You're about to spend a 2nd Christmas alone as it is.
I feel a million times better after asking my ex how come he started dating her. In fact, the answer was better than I expected. My sitch is complicated by the suicidal sid aspect, but then, yours is complicated by the length of time that has gone by, IMO. I know you are against it and are scientifically adhering to the DB method... but seriously Lisa, do yourself a favour and just DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT !???
I am so happy that this amazing man has fallen for you AND that your H has got the vibe you are growing tired of his shenanigins and is chasing you a little. You may end up in the bizarre posotion of having two men to choose from, who knows hey? As Kalni would say...Love you!
