Wandering Poster 44 - Countdown to ????

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Jeff.. I agree with Essie, and WTH is she complaining about division of labour for again!? If you D, she will have to do ALL of her shopping/cooking/cleaning, so thats the least of her worries right now, the M is more important... is she saying its part of a bigger issue.. she feels taken for granted? Treated as a mother/housekeeper/slave and not a woman? What is underneath all this complaining about chores !???

You said.. "She really and truly doesn't seem to think that there could be a good reason for her to talk to my C.".. I sort of agree, why do you want her to talk to your C??

"She said that I should have revisited that subject after her rejection, I told her that the way she did it felt like a complete turn off on the subject, so I wasn't about to do that."

Well again, I agree with her... why let things fester? Bad communication is the root of all evil all over these boards!!! And how we ended up separated in alot of cases as far as I can see. Why were you "not about to do that"? I asked you on a previoys page abut trying to clarify your communication with her, maybe not just 'leave things' like you have been doing?

"She did say that she thought MC would have to be part of the picture, after the first of the year. I agreed. I think she needs IC, too, but I don't think it is time to bring that into it."

WOW! So thats huge !!! Thats great news Jeff, she has agreed to go to MC with you! WooHoo!! THats a result hey ? Are yuo going to to start looking for a decent MC? Get an appointment booked! I agree on the IC, but if shes not willing, you can lead a horse to water... at least she agrees on the MC, I am SO pleased for you!

You're letter had the desired result I would say.. its kick started changes? YAY!

Al xxx