The Man my Husband became was at times so vile and nasty that I never would have chosen him to be a friend. He would also tell me that OW was his best friend and there was no room in his life for me other than as the Mother of his children.
But unfortunately since we were Married and had children together, there had to be some level of civility.
There was no trust left, and after being on this ride for a very long time, I actually began to pity him. Maybe this is wrong, but I did have alot of compassion for him, I didn't hate him.
He really did look stupid in his hip clothes, and the way he used to sound was so ridiculous.
But I felt terribly sorry for him because he gave up so much, his children, his wife, his home, his job, just to try and be a happy person, and the more he tried the more miserable he became.
I did try to be there for him when he needed to vent but there were boundaries.
Praying for him seemed like the best thing I was able to do in order to be his friend. AmyC once shared about her Husband kneeling by her bed at night, trying to pray her out of her MLC. I was so touched by that.
The Man he has now become is my best friend and for that I am so grateful to have had so much support here to ride out the crisis and not give up.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
