CIW, thanks thanks so much for your post. You gave me so much to think about and it's so valuable to see things from a male's perspective. thanks for admitting you are not perfect and was blinded that by more exciting, mysterious girl. I think definitely OW pursued H. They work together, OW has been to my house for dinner, has met my children. I think H is infatuated, flattered and finds it irresistable. I am the faithful one (not perfect by any means) but very accomodating, moving countries for him, dedicated and loyal and I get screwed.

Life is so not fair.

You said "All of a sudden, I started acting like I should have been acting all the way through our M. I'm still a good person and strive to only do good things in my life but I'm no longer a 'nice guy'." What did you mean by this? I want to be more like you and not be walked all over. Can you give me some examples? I don't want to be passive agressive, just strong and confident. But I was taught to give things if you love someone so am finding it hard to reconcile the two. Examples would be hugely appreciated.

Last edited by PositivelyMommy; 11/22/08 08:34 AM.
Me:39
H:40
S:9
D:7
First Bomb ONS:June 07
Second Bomb OW: March 08
Separated: March 08
M:15 yrs
T:18 yrs
H deep into A with OW
Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09

'Yes, I can.'