Hi Bobbijo - I've followed your threads for a while...and am often in awe of your spirit and your strength.
It wasn't until my W finally moved out that I realized just how much her way of being has been harming me...I use the word harm on purpose - since it's not the same has hurting...hurting doesn't go as deep and can be overcome without permanent suffering - the harm, though, that's where my W was taking us until she moved out.
From what I've read - you've got all the strength you need to grow beyond the pain and confusion you're living through now.
