Lan,

<< "One advice for you:keep the tanks full at all times".
<< Obvious statement, but easier said than done.
How do you get to Carnegie Hall?

Plan of Action:
Does she feel your genuine affection for her everyday? Would you be able to think of the "Little Man" as primarily for W's pleasure?
Lan, seriously we are all amateurs here on this board. You may need professional advice on this. What you have in your favor is you are a patient guy.