Hi LIS, it's been a while since we've talked. I see you are still hanging in here and that says a lot about you. I gathered from what few posts I have read that D16 still doesn't know about mom. Well, you know how I feel about having to tell anyone if things can be worked out between the couple, but I do have limits and if she is trying to get her "version" of the so called truth first.....that's not good. She probably knows if she doesn't get to the D first with her side of the story, then she fears she'll lose her, therefore she has to convince D that you are the monster here. Just my take on what I read. I may be off base, and this may be about something else. Anyway, I am sorry that things are like this, but if she opens this can of worms, then don't sit back and not defend yourself. I fully understand how you feel in wanting to protect your loved ones, but in this case, you've got to tell them what is really happening. After all this time, they probably have a good idea, but haven't wanted to face the truth.

Take care,
Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!