For the Guy with Kids and a WW Neunzehn(19)

[hopeful4her]

Karen, the wife had called me earlier, when I was on the way to pick up D11. Asking how I was going to get her. Where I was going to get her. I would just tell her what I was doing. She started to tell me how she was having "blonde" moments all day.

Of course, I just HAD to engage in the coversation and ask her why. She said she didn't know. She repeated, "Just having 'blonde' moments. I told her that maybe it'll get better and then she told me she had to go, that she'll call me later.

She is just a goofball.

At almost exactly 6pm, I got alerted to an email from her work.
She said in response to my last email,

"I told you I had a blond moment all day, I didn’t even get that until right now."

I had to respond,

"Your goofy.

And you ARE blonde......now.

What are you still doing at work?"

[yenko69]

Just to chime in on this. The only really good responses I got when I pulled way back and went my own way. Of course then I start to get close and she pulls away again. It has worked for me the past, may be worth a try for you and S@S.

[hopeful4her]

Send your daughter over to the wife so she will get it. That will keep bad guys away!!!

When the doctor was looking over my little one, she was telling us no kisses or sharing cups and stuff. We've had the same doctor since S14 was a baby. She knows the wife's mother, because MIL is a newborn nurse at a local hospital. Doc also knows that we are currently separated.

I told D7,

"Okay, when you go see mom, lots and lots of kisses."

Doc looks at me and says,

"Thats just mean", with a great big smile.

[hopeful4her]

Just to chime in on this. The only really good responses I got when I pulled way back and went my own way. Of course then I start to get close and she pulls away again. It has worked for me the past, may be worth a try for you and S@S.

I keep telling myself this.

But I see a clear difference in our spouses. Not that it wouldn't work, but yours was still VERY attached to you. I could just see it, with her being so jealous and accusatory of you.

Mine ain't no where near that.

But yes, I agree I need to try it for a longer period than I have in the past. Hard to tell whats best.

[yenko69]

I told D7,

"Okay, when you go see mom, lots and lots of kisses."

Doc looks at me and says,

"Thats just mean", with a great big smile.

That made me laugh. So did your lasagna reference. You are a funny guy.

I don't think she is so attached to me now. Or I am not to her, either way it works.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Just to chime in on this. The only really good responses I got when I pulled way back and went my own way. Of course then I start to get close and she pulls away again. It has worked for me the past, may be worth a try for you and S@S.

I agree. Time to pull back again. WAYYYY back. Let her miss you a little.

Puppy

[hopeful4her]

Puppy!

Have you been lurking unbeknownst to me?

I thought you thought that I was a lost cause long ago.

[whatdidido]

Yep, that's what I meant by that one statement you asked about...pull wayyyyyyyy back and I do think she should be taking equal amount of time picking them up from your house as well (the house you both lived in). Make sure your house is full of happiness when she comes. Show the strong, funny, great dad h4h when she stops to get the kids. Focus on the kids. Focus on your job. Stay away from the parasites. Make dinner, do laundry, play some board games with the kids, do a family project, etc. together. Focus on that. She will want to be a part of that!!!! She will see it, hear about it, ...want it.

[Dr LOve]

hey H4H,

How Ya doing? WDID has great advice.
I am here in our time share by myself BUT...Tomarrow W will be here... Our first real by ourselves date..
We will get through this buddy.. keep the faith

Doc

[Dr LOve]

hey H4H,

How Ya doing? WDID has great advice.
I am here in our time share by myself BUT...Tomarrow W will be here... Our first real by ourselves date..
We will get through this buddy.. keep the faith

Doc