"I hope you are not confusing detachment with "the tipping point"."
Hi SD,
I'm not really sure they can be completely separated, i.e., it was the tipping point that lead to the detachment.
The ultimate tipping point came when my H broke the agreement (he insisted on) of no introductions to OP until we came to another agreement at some time.
Our S5 came home to tell me he met one of daddy's friends, a big girl, but didn't invite her over for dinner. H told me it shouldn't matter, b/c it was a "cursory" meeting when he had to go drop something off @ her place. After thinking about it, I was curious what was so important to drop off & asked S5 what they took over to his friend's.
"Nothing, my daddy is lying, he just told me he wanted me to meet one of his new friends."
Whata role model. As I read not too long ago in Private Lies, "The impact & the problems of people who grew up amid secrets & deceits & constant threats to the marital stability are not greatly different from those faced by children growing up with alcoholic parents."
I've now given him my response to the settlement offer. He sent his response in an e-mail this morning, after not speaking with him for a few days, with a "Call me if you want to talk about this."
Since we appear to be pretty far apart, I said it looks like we need to go thru L's now. He said he'd talk to me later on.
I decided that means this is going to go on as it has, so I called back & told him we really need to get going on this & get it over with." H-"I'm freaking out on so many levels now, I'll talk to you later. But go ahead & have your L read thru it."
Hey Dave,
"Every now and then W will get upset and hit me with a request for settlement , that used to see me weaken and "play along " to settle things. Now I just agree and dont react. So she drops the tactic and goes back to very friendly."
Another script moment that doesn't vary much, huh!
Not working now, b/c I feel strong & not much willing to play along anymore.
"I know things will be good for you going forward."
