No Hill that was awesome. It sounds to me as if you've got experience in this type of thing. And it sounds as if you've learned something too, which is a very good thing.
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Divorce is like war. War is ugly.
I never have understood those who say they had an amicable D. Maybe you can if there are no kids involved, but even then, there were promises made and not kept, so I still don't get it.
Anyone who looked at my X and me at the courthouse on the day of the D would not have been able to tell we'd just been through a war with one another because it looked to the eye like a pleasant little exchange. I chose to do that, but it hurt my heart to be there. I didn't allow him to see that because at that point, he had no right to know what was in my heart.
Soooo many here told me to treat the process of splitting my life with him as a business transaction. Once I got to the point where I knew that was true I allowed myself to think that way. And we all should think that way. This is most likely the biggest business decision we will ever make and what we do at the point of splitting things will impact us probably for the rest of our lives.
Weigh it all carefully FL and take your time. Do not rush into things and if your gut tells you to step back, then step back.
FL, believe it or not, YOU have so much more power right now than she does. She's the one with the BF. She's the one who wants this done. You, on the other hand, don't have that to worry about. All you have to do is keep up the facade of having a good attitude towards her. All you have to do is remain calm, talk to good professional people, do your homework, and then I promise you that it will be you who ends up with a full life.
One day, she will be forced to look back at the choices she made. You will have moved forward at that point with no guilt and she will be the one who will know exactly what she did.
