At the same time, you have given her a lot of stuff to think about - things that she maybe doesn't want to think about. She has said she will think about it I personally wouldn't set deadlines. Her initial reaction was maybe understandable i.e. the defensiveness, after all that is a natural reaction I think.
Give her time and space in my opinion now you have made this move. It is a big move and it needs some digesting on her part I think. It may be a chance to build up that love bank... actions Jeff. What has been working that you have seen a positive result from lately? I can think of a few things...
