I screwed up again

[techguy]

Now I understand though that if I want her back I need to stop blaming her (even if she is the one to blame) and that I need to start focusing on myself and my behavior.

Hi AN,

One of my favorite quotes from DR book: 'Do you want to be right or do you want to be married'?

Now, of course, you can take this too far. You deserve to be treated decently. Some disgruntled spouses get into a mode where they try to treat the LBS like a doormat. I'm not encouraging that! But, yes, you might need to overlook some of her issues for the sake of the M.