Question to WAWs and AWAWs about A

[MrBond]

Okay, I have a question for the AWAW and WAWs out there. My wife was involved in an Emotional Affair for a few months which I stopped right away. She told me she wanted a divorce right off the bat and have refused to look back.

Like other similar situations on these Boards, she has given me a new excuse every day about why she wants out. And also the fact that she has never been "head over heels" in love with me in 17 years of being together. And has re-written history when it came to our happy times together.

She even gets VERY angry and defensive when the subject of the EA comes up and tells me to "get over it". I have forgiven her for it, but I don't think she has gotten over how the affair made her feel. Even though it was with a guy twice her age and married.

Yet after 7 months, she hasn't moved an inch to doing any type of paperwork and when we're together with our two kids, she acts like nothing's wrong.

So my question for the WAWs is this:
At what point did you turn the corner and decide to work on the marriage. Even when you definitely thought that your husband wasn't "the one?" Also, how long did it take for you to get to that point? And did you seek help or figure it out by yourself?

My wife doesn't want to go to C. She has no close friends and just confides in her unmarried sister. So any insight will be helpful. I'm just about ready to throw in the towel.

Thanks for listening.