I screwed up again

[AnotherNightmare]

Beth,

Thank you for your encouragement and comments so far! I have been reading DR in every free minute and I have come to the point of setting my goals. I would love to hear some feedback from the more experieced LBS:

1. She will stop talking about ending the marriage.
2. We will start doing things as a family again.
3. We will stop fighting about little things.
4. She will involve me in things she is planning with and for the kids.
5. She will smile again when I am present.
6. She will stop the contact with OM.

I feel they are very ambitious and almost impossible to achieve, especially the last one, if I think about the state of her mind, but I am determined to give it a shot.

Anyway, I may also have accomplished my first 180 today. She hates going downtown because of traffic, parking etc and she was hoping to carpool to take the kids to watch a hockey game downtown. Now the other family told her it will not work. Even though I told her before that I had no interest in this game, I offered her to take the kids. I think I saw just a little bit of surprise in her face, but she accepted.

AN