Hi MfT - You found me here..cool..that's just why I posted my thoughts here first - for the necessary reality checks...I don't want to fix her situation at all - but, damn, if it isn't a strong impulse in me...so I just have to keep it in check - and stay silent on that one unless she asks for help.
I've detached from her in just about every way - if not for our baby I don't think we would have any contact at all - and that would be okay right now. I worry about her finances mostly because I wonder if it will affect our baby.
As for letting her know that I'm open to starting over...yeah...it's just something that goes through my head sometimes - since it's true - though I also realize that there's only a very small, small, small chance of reconciliation - there's forgiveness - and I've managed to forgive her and feel no anger toward her. Most of the time I feel a lot of sadness for her - and the pain she's in. Other than the thoughts of a tiny chance at reconciliation - I don't do anything that's pursuing. Don't call, don't text, don't email - communication is only about finances and the baby - never anything about our R/M - or anything emotional.
I think reality is hitting her pretty hard though. But that's her choice, her journey...
