WOW! I think thats positive! (yep, I have a lot of sagi in my chart too Jeff, always the optimist).. I wasnt expecting that.. she is saying she cant 'deal' with this right now.. she needs space to. Well, then, thats a good thing? Thats not a no, I'm not interested, or I dont care what you think. She also reassured you not to take her slow reaction as a rejection, so thats positive too? Its like.. it isnt, even if you thnk it is.
Of course, she is stuck in old patterns, moaning about quilting and visitors and tidying the damn house (if I were you, I would work overtime 2 hours a week and PAY FOR A CLEANER for her, goddamnit!)
So, looks like she intends to respond...after the holidays??
I think its interesting that she said you had misinterpreted her response about the C..sounds like a valid reason not to see YOUR C. And you said, yuo could have got it wrong.. all points again to a total breakdown in communication. Perhaps.. if she ever says things again.. and you are not clear.. instead of 'leaving it', or walking away, or assumeing, or seething.. you could say.. "what did you mean by that ?" or.. "I think what you're saying is, X.. have I got that right?".. just to clarify??
Would that be a 180 for you? I did that with my ex Tuesday.. I noticed in the past I wsa confused by things and would speculate here over meanings, so when he said vague things, I said to him "what do you mean you.. X ?" and the answers were very illuminating! (and made me realise I didnt expect that answer).
Waffling, sorry, but I am pleasently surprised she didnt just return it to you, unopened, or shredded, or something.
