Have you been keeping a log of how she has been? LE makes a good point - I see my W trying to do things to show she is the "primary caregiver" - not that this matters. BUT her actions over this entire year show different.
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ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.