I like that you and your XH are being good friends and co-parents. And yet, you are both slowly and gradually healing and moving on with your seperate lives. I personally think sometimes a long and gradual divorce is good. Because it allows the time to heal during a tumultious time.

Getting together as a couple takes time, and uncoupling takes time as well. I think trying to rush it can be much more emotionally difficult and can lead to mistakes, anger, and much more pain. It doesn't erase the emotions, but it seems like they aren't so painfully deep, steep or dramatic.

Keep hanging in there. Try to stay positive! Always look for those silver linings...

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.