hey rmg, thanks for the post, how did you know you wanted/were saving yourself for new wife? I'm kind of livin in a weird limbo land after bar woman, I've lost so much faith in women, although I know it's not fair to any potential girl in the future, Bar woman has contacted me since incident and wants to be together again.WTF!!! I haven't answered yet but it's tempting, She is very pretty, I know I should run away fast but I still have an emotional attachment because my esteem is at 0 right now, I know what needs to be done, but I can't because it's nice to feel wanted, at least when it's convenient for her, I know it's bad for me but It's like a drug and I think I'd feel lonely again, I keep thinkin she will see the amazing me and things will be different, WTF~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ted187,
My friend, this is so difficult....... I guess I have to go back to what happened with my exW... Her infidelity and lack of character really got to me... She actually told me:
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If you are dating a woman and want to have sex with her, you should...
I said:
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I plan on having lots of sex with my wife...
She just stood there... What COULD she say?
My friend, you DO NOT need any woman to validate you as a man.... I know when you are hurting this is hard to grasp.... I know... When the D was final and "Ms. Montana" was really interested.... It felt so good spending time with her.... Plus, she was ready to go after being Ded for two years without sex.... I just had to resist....
Back to your question, how did I know I wanted/was saving myself for new wife? I just knew I did not want to be like my exW.... I NEVER wanted exW to say, "See he is JUST LIKE all the other guys!" If I never remarried, I was fine to go without... The is just the right thing to do in my humble opinion....
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
