For the Guy with Kids and a WW Neunzehn(19)

[hopeful4her]

Can't back off a bit, I have to back off a lot. These days that I have the all the kids, knowing that she is probably at her place with him there just drives me nuts. It always has, I have just found ways to take my mind off of it, for the most part.

And the video's got me very emotional.

I don't want to be emotional. It makes me do things that I otherwise, wouldn't do.

Tomorrow is another day and it will be GREAT!

I did put "Run Fatboy Run" in my queue. That looks really funny.

[InLikeFlynn]

She should have the decency to call/email you back about dinners. I noticed you are always dropping the kids off and picking them up. Why is that? She invites you to stay for meals at her convienence but doesn't return the favor.

[hopeful4her]

I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt. I sent it at just after 5:30. The branch closes at 5:30, but she usually has a late client that may keep her later. She is supposed to clock out at 5:50 as she gets to the office at 8:50am.

She may have been ready to go and did not give a final check to her email. Definately would not put it past her.

My little one is sick today, too. Complaining of a headache and a sore throat, which she had last night too. She even went to bed early. Meds last night and this morning, but the headache remains. She had a touch of fever last night, but not so much this morning. I'll have to keep an eye on her. Will call her doc later.

The wife called my cell and I let D11 answer it. They had a conversation about the puppies and if I had put blankets out for them. I said no, but I have a big pile of leaves in their pen. They'll just chew up the blankets. They also talk about D7.

"Dad, did you give her medicine?"
"Of course."
"Dad, who is going to stay with her?"
"Who do you think is going to stay with her? I am". Now I'm getting defensive.
"I thought you had to work?" That one may have been from D11.
"I do, but I'll just have to call in."

The wife asks such stupid questions. Maybe she is still light headed from extra curricular activities last night. She never called the girls last night like she told S14 she would.

If she didn't see the email last night, she'll see it this morning.

Just going to take care of my baby today.

About the dropping off and picking up. I've have thought about that. I'm usually the one out and about at those times, so I drop by the apartment. I have to start making her drop off the kids when it is my week.

I think your the only one that has noticed that.

[kat727]

I just thought it was sort of like our situation. Ex created all this mess and I don't want to even see where he lives, so he has to come and get the kids but we don't do one week on/one week off. He gets them Tuesday night and every other weekend. They balk at that and S16 still won't go if he can find something to do. He doesn't want to spend the night and ex forces them too. If he would be a little giving until he got their trust back but like I said his way or the highway. I don't get in the middle anymore.

So I noticed but just thought it was something you had agreed to since you live out in the boonies and she lives closer to the school etc.

kat

[hopeful4her]

It had just kinda worked out that way. At first, I just didn't feel like having her over to the house. And I HAVE to pass her coming and going.

I wish there was more of the former instead of the latter.

But when we were here together, we would make her ex bring S14 to us. He would always try to finagle his way out of it, trying to see if we were in town doing something. The wife and I would always talk smack about him doing that.

I need to make her drop off more. Now she EXPECTS me to be the one to pick up and drop off.

[karen43]

I'm not going to say anything, H4H, you know what you need to do. Just need to do it. I don't care if she did get the text late, I think you deserved a reply to that whenever she did read it, even if just a no thanks or sorry I got your msg. late or something. You know what I'm thinking I'm sure. Karen

[hopeful4her]

Karen, I don't see this side of you very often.

I sent the message to my wife through her work email, so that is why I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

But still, I DO know what I need to do for now.

Let's see. What is karen thinking? I hope it has to do something with chocolate, a bath tub, and me.

[whatdidido]

Mornin', h4h. I, too, think you needed to say the things you did in the email. There is nothing wrong with emotion. In fact, if you didn't have it it would be more worrisome. You are fighting for her.

I, too, think going to the movie by yourself would be a good thing. There is a part in the movie where the husband cooks a big meal, sets the table extravagantly, lights candles, as a surprise, etc. and his wife comes in, looks at it, and walks out. You are choosing to love her even though it seesm like she isn't loving you back. You hate the "power" she has over you, but that "power" is called love. You love her. And, your words to her were powerful.

Does she have the choice to get a divorce? Yes. But, that is not your choice. By you continuing your love she can't disregard what she is doing. You put it out there. Let's see what she does. Expect the best, and prepare for the worst.

As for the dropping off. I've noticed that a long time ago. That's why I said something about it seeming like they are at her house all the time. But, really, you are dropping off and picking up there all the time. Not making it so convenient for her will help her feel what she is doing as well.

HOpe your little girl feels better.

Hang in there. This is going to be a hard day for you I think. Emotional. We are here for you, and lean on God while you're waiting.

[lost_in_space]

Let's see. What is karen thinking? I hope it has to do something with chocolate, a bath tub, and me.

OMG - H4H are you trying to take over the XXX rating from kat?

[kat727]

Oh really I am fine letting someone else have it! "R" is hard enough to achieve!!

kat