This is where I am torn. Because if it were just me, I would ask/tell Dan to leave today, to find somewhere to stay until he has his own place. B/C he will never find out what it is like to leave until he leaves...
(When he said he couldn't imagine being without me, I said, you already did it when you moved out in March. He said, "That was just for my job and you had to finish your job down there, that wasn't a separation." Ooooooookay? Didn't feel that way to me...)
I just think Dan really needs to see/feel/touch/experience life as a separated/divorcing man before he will know what is going on. He may LOVE it, which is fine, I will live with that. He may HATE it, which is fine, then he will know it. But talking about leaving while staying is getting us nowhere but me frustrated, sad, and angry just like H.
I just can't reconcile that with what it is going to do to my kids, and how I feel about telling them before the holidays...
