Yes definitely not time to relax yet...I will continue to focus on the positives, while realizing that we have a long ways to go. I am still very cautious about everything I say, and I don't see this changing in the immediate future. Still, I am relaxing in 1 way, and that's in terms of not expecting an explosion every day. He may semi-take back what he gives in terms of compliments, but at least he is not spewing negativity anymore.
I am pretty pleased to see that he has been doing what seems to be some real thinking about his own issues. No matter what this is a positive sign. I also think it's positive that he is continuing to see a therapist, completely of his own accord.
Yeah I'll play tonight by ear I guess. I have pretty bad cramps so would like to just go home, but I am going to see what he has to say about his own evening. He actually hasn't said a thing, it's just a feeling I have. Of course he has a new video game so may very much want to get home and play it now that the computer is working :).
Actually H reached out via IM to say thank you for fixing the computer. I appreciated this as he actually didn't acknowledge my efforts yesterday, but of course I wasn't expecting him to. So, he's slow, but at this point in time every small gesture and word of kindness is very much appreciated.
Hope you're having a good day and thanks for checking in on me!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
