I read your thread on your post - sorry to hear that your morning started out rough. Hopefully the rest of your day will be looking up.
Physically, I'm still having problems w/balance and constant dizziness. I've had every test under the sun - except for a CAT scan - that's Monday. I'm hanging in there.
As far as my H's A goes - yes, we've talked about why he had it in our MC. Basically, he felt abandoned by me when I felt I needed to be with my sister. He also has issues w/intimacy - he also felt that OW "needed" him in ways that he feels I don't. It's all confusing to me - we were together five years before we married, I was the same then as I am now, but all of a sudden, I'm too independent?
The OW is now divorced - ofcourse they were both going to get divorced and marry each other. The good thing, is she feels totally jerked around by him (what do you expect when you get involved w/a married man?) - and seems to have moved on.
As far as him coming home, he says that when I got sick he realized how much he still cared for me, and that the relationship with the OW was never "love". Also, during the months when I had NC w/him, he was still trying to contact me -- he said those months without me and not much contact w/the kids made him realize what his life would be like w/o us.
Until he's ready for complete transparency, I'm not ready for him to be home. I'm not living with secrets anymore. If he wants "privacy" it won't be with me.
I think his "controlling" talk is bs - his parents were not controlling - but his second wife was.
