It hurts so much, impulse can win over logic many times.
Your daughter can feel more comfortable sharing her fears with you which is beautiful. If she's willing to make life difficult with your wife and her partner, she'd be willing to pull at your heart strings too. It's not malicious.. I see it as a child sacrificing themselves for what she believes to be the greater good whether she knows it or not. And counseling would be no doubt help your daughter. *hugs*
You don't know the guy you wife is with. If your daughter doesn't feel comfy with him, it's your wife's baliwick, it's the consequences of HER actions that's up to her to deal with. And as you've told your spouse in the past, you can change visitation.. what I call.. 'live-i-tation'. Go to counseling, find out what works best for your girlie girl.
You're there for your little angel.. not to clean up your wife's messes.. because.. she's not your wife right now. A spouse worthy of being called husband or wife respects, care, trusts their partner in life.
Ack... time to lightly jump off the soap box...
And the BF... I read.. 'best friend'.. 'friend who's a boy'.. a way of saying.. I'm not ready for a girl.
