One afternoon after school I was sitting in a circle with friends and unknowns who were sharing something illicit. I asked a friend.. what do I do, I don't smoke pot?? She whispered something helpful. When it came my turn, I (the virgin) smiled and said, "It's bad for the baby."
Anyway...
No matter how bad or terrible things are, a silver lining exists... a nugget of learning, truth and wisdom. It's there to find, it's there to lift you up, it's there. And that kernel helps you be a better person for the rest of your life. At least it does for me.
Now with this rending of family.. I don't look for the silver lining. I look to live.