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I like the idea of taping the envelope onto the mirror , but she'd probably complain about the sticky residue the tape would leave behind!!



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Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
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Yeah, keep the strong wording out is best for now.

I gave my W a bunch of letters. She never much commented on them at the time. Now after the divorce is almost final, she tells me that she reads them (and a big photo collage album of us) a lot. She has huge regrets for what she calls "the nightmare that came into her life". But her pride has kept her from ever saying she wants to do what was required to come back - regain my trust.

I only hope that your W wakes up to and realizes what a marriage with Jeff can be if both of you work towards a common goal of creating a fullfilling relationship.

Dont ask her if she read or what she thinks of the letter. Let her be the one to initiate a response. There is hope.

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Yep, she has to initiate any response. In my mind, no response is a response, as well.

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No expectations for an immediate response, though I'm sure you've already thought of that. She might need a day, or even two, to process her thoughts and everything else.

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Good luck Jeff!


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Together: 18 yrs
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Praying for you Jeff.


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

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((((Jeff)))) Hope she doesn't let a good one get away.
I could use a tune up on my thread. Got a minute? Peace.


Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse
S:22, S:19, D:16
Filed Oct 08, dismissed
Filed again Jan 10, dismissed
Now Piecing
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(((((boots)))))(((((mishka)))))(((((BobbiJo)))))

Well, it's on her vanity. She's asleep on the sofa.

I've started something, I wonder what?

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Hi VH,

I haven't posted to you before, but have been reading along, and love the letter. Best wishes for a positive response!

ITH


Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years
Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be
S 07/28/08-11/08/08
Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
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I am bitting the rest of my nails off....
Let us know first when you have a reaction... Dear Lord, I bet she is going to go in a state of shock...(not sock)


Me&H:42
S11&D10
Bomb 5/2007-Sep 11/2007
Reconc.November 2009
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