While you are in a holding pattern with your life, do things to improve yourself for you and for your children. In the event that your XW decides that she has made a mistake, you will have been working on your part of the equation of improving you so that a NEW YOU would being giving the relationship a go rather than the you that gave a go the first time.
Understand that XW having a change of heart is a long shot, and that is why investing in yourself is your gift to YOU not to HER. Do your best to focus on the only person that you have a likely chance of changing, you. Use your local library to get some books on man issues. I generally use amazon.com to purchase my books, but also to read the reviews of books that have come to my attention. It's useful and checking them out at the library is much less expensive than purchasing even the most inexpensive books.
I hope you and your children are well. Strengthen your relationship with them. Cherish those relationships. Those won't end in divorce. My best to you. Keep us posted on your comings and goings. My good story for the pas couple of days is that my 3 year old son is almost complete toilet trained. His accomplishment makes me so happy for him. His independence grows.
Bye.
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07
