Sandi!!! I'm not leaving!!! I'll be here. I just wanted everyone to know how much I appreciated them. I didn't mean for it to sound so much like a goodbye!!!
Maybe I'll leave Newcomers though and go somewhere else. I might not qualify for posting here anymore! I'll let you know where I go so you don't have to look too hard.
I'm fine Sandi!! I might not have been fine a few months back...but I'm fine now! I think I've forgiven him. I know I'm not angry at him anymore. I love the idea of him still. I love the H I married. But, that H has "left the building" so to speak. I'm hopeful that we can get through the D and remain pleasant with each other. I think I can. I can't speak for him.
I've grown a lot through this. Your faith has inspired me. I've learned alot from you, and I'll be talking to you possibly from now on!!! I value your input and your friendship. I won't just walk away from that.
Love you, Sandi!!! And everyone else here!!!
Hugs! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Tawnya...the beauty of it is that you don't have to figure out what. Pick anything that sounds even remotely interesting! You'll figure out soon enough if it's right for you!!! If not, pick something else. If you are crafty at all, you can start at Michael's or Hobby Lobby. They always have those classes...some good ones around the holidays. They are real expensive, they don't require a lot of time, and you end up with a product when you are finished! And, if you make a new friend while you are there...even better!
I'm telling you...it will make all the difference in your outlook on life!!! I'm certainly not suggesting that you give up on your marriage. I'm just suggesting that you get busy doing something while your H is not cooperating!!!
And, I am doing good!!
Hugs to you! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
That's right any little thing that distracts the mind from all this crap is a good thing. I like to try and remember what it is that made me an individual before I met my W and had the lobotomy.
So, I've made plans to go to Vegas for New Years with a friend (the one who's boyfriend's ex-wife wanted him back...for those of you who remember the story). At any rate, she emails this morning info about a 1/2 marathon in Vegas on the 1st of January. So, I think we are going to sign up! That's crazy!!!! I may just run so many miles over the course of the next few years that I cover the whole US!!!!
I guess I'll use that run to burn the calories from my grandmother's caramel cake that I'll consume over Christmas!
Tawnya and TxMom...the challenge is on! You should both report back here with some GAL goal very soon to stay in the race!!!
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Tawnya...I was just rereading and noticed that I mistyped...but, I'm sure you figured it out already. I meant to say that the classes at the craft stores are not real expensive!!!!
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Vegas,, how fun... I just don't think my H will watch our kids on New Years Eve since is OW is 25yrs old... although I think I might tell him I've booked a trip and need him to watch the girls... see what he says .. he has never cared about New Years so we'll see.
I am planning a trip to Cancun next Feb. all girls (some of my friends are turning 40 next year) so that will be fun.. I also am trying to get out to LA to visit a friend too in Jan.
But for GALing I want to take photography classes.. I want to take pictures of babies, kids, families and have been interested in this for awhile so I thought I'd start with classes next year.
I have made a list of all the things I want to get done for me and the girls... it helps.. just hard as I'm so busy can't seem to find time to do it all
I can't imagine Amy being where you are... I'm still so sad, not even angry just sad, I hope I can say I've "forgiven" H or that I'm OK with getting Divorced... not there yet.
What are your plans for Thanksgiving?? will you have the boys?
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
Hello, ladies!!! Yes, you too can get to a happier place. Don't get me wrong...I'm very sad about the D...and will be for a long time. And, if H were to come home tomorrow and commit to working on the M, I'd welcome him with semi-open arms!!
But, I've also discovered that life can go on without him...and, in a lot of ways...it might even be more fun. I have a friend who's been a single mom for a long time. When H first moved, I said to her, "How in the world am I going to manage on my own with the boys?" She laughed and said, "You'll do fine. You'll do the things that are most important and the others will slide. Sometimes homework won't get done; sometimes the house will be a complete disaster, and sometimes the kids might wear dirty jeans to school; but they will always know you love them and want what's best for them." But the one thing she told me that really struck a chord and has stayed with me was this..."And, once you figure out a routine, you'll be better than fine. If you know you have to do it all yourself, you can do it all yourself. It's the expecting H to help you and then being let down that's really the hardest."
So, that's what I've done. I've figured out how to just do it all myself when I have the boys. My best advice (especially for you, TxMom) is to get a set schedule for visitation with H ASAP. If you know when you'll be free to do things on your own, you can plan a class or a running schedule, etc.
The key to being okay with this nightmare we are in is discovering that you are super cool women that no man in his right mind would walk away from. Once you do that...you'll have a different perspective...if H is willing to walk away from this super cool woman, then he's not in his right mind, and maybe I don't need that!
I love you guys! And, whatever happens, you'll be okay!
When I have a few minutes (and I'm not sure when that will be), I'll see if I can find some of my old posts...from the very beginning...so, you can see where I came from. That might help you more than anything know that you can get here from there!
Hugs to you! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
