HI well I met with my L today the court set a mandatory meeting to push case along H and L were there His L told mine, they want to go slow? but H wants D the judge gave us 2 months until mandatory mediation I am ready..I want the D I am starting to focus more on rebuilding my life than on H
H over last night He appears to talk a lot and seems to have many visits where he wants to talk or connect..whereas months ago he would connect and then withdraw..He seems to want me as his friend He appears to be sure about wanting the D..Im assuming he will mov3e on after..he still seems attached here im not sure how I feel about him anymore He seems do different I dont really like him
the whole situation is still so weird to me still so hard for me to understand how someone can just walk away and seeminly be ok with it how someone you lived with , spoke with and was committed to you and kids could just shutdown and change so quickly to this person who you can not get thru to
I am curious how H will turn out in a few years will he regret his choice or be totally fine with it
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
He will slowly slowly realize what he has done. He will always regret it. You cannot replace your covenant spouse and children. You will never get that time back.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
the whole situation is still so weird to me still so hard for me to understand how someone can just walk away and seeminly be ok with it how someone you lived with , spoke with and was committed to you and kids could just shutdown and change so quickly to this person who you can not get thru to
I sometimes wonder if the person that our H's are now are who they truly are and they weren't letting their true self show for all those years? Then I think that sometimes people change and that is just something we have to accept.
I think we know the odds are that your H will someday regret his choice. There is little point in dwelling on that now though. Move forward with your life and enjoy each and every moment that you can. Life is too short to sit around thinking about what might be or could have been.
Hey peace- I wanted to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving and to let you know how much I appreciate the help and support your have given me in this last year. You have been a blessing in my life.
Hi My son 7 was sick yesterday whezzing touch and go almost went to ER He is starting to get a little better H came last night He was very late knew son was sick very UNsupportive whezzing is a scary thing and he totally avoided helping in any way I was alone here all day with this kid thank God for a good friend and neighbot(nurse) to come by and talk to me I waas exhausted H was mean to me and made it clear , he would not visit today (his day off)son asked not me I made excuses to son not to upset him and he would not wait or stay last night for an extra few minutes till son fell asleep so I could amke sure he didnt need ER I am so disappinted in H he still avoids me thinking I will get false hope if he shows a little concern I was not wanting anything from him but help asthma is a scary thing and H has no clue eventthough we have been thru similar days with son years ago I am just starting to breathe myself again I dont understand how a childs father can be so Cold when he can clearly see son was sick this man has nothing to give how can he live with himself I look back on My M to him and I see similar occurances he is a child himself who never quite grew up he never like me to ask him for emotional help I think everythime I would want him to be a real H and be there for me, He heard the demands of his own mother when he was a child he could never work it out with her and will probably reamain emotional dead for a long time to come peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I can't imagine your H having much of a relationship with anyone right now.
I have no clue how these guys function or have any ego left.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Peace, I am sorry your son was so sick. My son had asthma from when he was three months old until he was 9. He outgrew it. But it was very scary.
Your h is a little boy who is running from his responsibility. MLC or not, that is not ok. I was responsible for almost everything with my son in the past - never realized it until recently.
Take care of yourself and your children, Peace. And try really hard not to spend too much time trying to figure your h out. He is lost and broken.
peace- I am so sorry about your S's asthma. My S has had allergy induced asthma too but hasn't had any flare ups for the last several years (we are hoping he is now in "remission")...it can be scary if they can't get it under control...especially to the point that you are considering taking him to the ER. I can only imagine the stress this has caused you especially when your H won't help. Has your S seen a pulmonologist? Has he been put on any medications to prevent the flare ups?
I have heard that asthma attacks can also be brought on by emotions...not sure if that is a fact but regardless, you are doing the right thing by trying to keep your S from know that his father can't handle things.
I am sorry that your H just can't seem to deal with much of anything. If only he would recongize that he needs some help. He will eventually realize how unfair it was to burden you with everything. Someday he is going to figure out how screwed up he was...just who know where you will be by then.
I hope your S is okay. Stay strong. Your kids need you so much.
Thank you T BM and Upside for your support Son is doing better today and I am also
H called this am ..I noticed on caller ID Guilt? wanted to check up on son whatever I am feeling sad but closer to done Im so tired of these games..H cant have it both ways me to be the pleasing LBS while he relives his teenage years all the hope I used to have has faded I have grown and I need to dust off and move on maybe go more dim for a while I may also share my feelings with H about his unavailability during this time He wants to be told everything is always ok anything he does is ok and forgiven in the real world, it is not
peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
