Should You Be Their "Best Friend"?

[Imageer]

One thing I have wondered is would Imageer feel as he does if his wife had had an affair with a man

I have thought about this in the past and I can honestly say that it might effect the way I deal with this. I really don't know. I can only deal with the hand that I have been given.

In the case of my W, I do believe that she is ill. Her actions go far beyond her and I. Since this has happened, she has neglecting the kids, Spent months having panic attacks and most recently lost her job.

I truly believe that she needs compassion rather than an advesary.

It is also 100% true that it takes 2 to put us where we are. Yes my W cheated and is having an A but I am not even remotely innocent in the events that put us here.