GAL/Make-yourself-feel-better ideas!

[Dawn of Hope]

So does hot but meaningless sex count?

OK, just kidding, but celibacy is getting boring, I must say..

<Heh heh heh> Yeah, I'm almost at the point of going for that hot but meaningless sex thing! (ALMOST...but not planning to cross that line!) I *still* can't believe I'm M and living with my H but forced into celibacy for reasons other than health! I guess going straight from having only been involved with one person, ever, to becoming a "lady of the night" isn't my best option, though, huh? (Even though my night-owl tendencies would suit that profession nicely!)

I think it's OK to also go through a period of being alone. I've done that; am gradually wanting to get more active.

Being alone can be very healing. It does have to be balanced with socializing. I have always been an introvert, and very comfortable being alone--I get cranky and tired if I spend too much time with people!--so one of my 180s at the time of the bomb was to force myself to get out more. Sometimes you have to push yourself over that hump because you know it's in your best interests, even if you don't feel like doing it right then. I *always* found that if I did that, I felt a lot better at the end of the evening than I did when I went out the door--and that's despite the fact that my depression is prone to get worse as the day/evening wears on! At the same time...I do feel that you HAVE to have a certain amount of time alone to process and begin to heal what is happening. Otherwise you will not be able to come out of the experience as a better person rather than just a more damaged one.

JOIN A SOFTBALL TEAM OR A BOWLING LEAGUE!!!

Good, good! As is Ali's suggestion above...

So...what else can you think of? Keep those ideas coming!

Peace,
Dawn