e-mail your L what you and your daughter need each month -- JUST NECESSITIES -- and don't forget anything.
Then note your income.
Then note your husband's "contributions", and the dates.
The #s should speak for themselves. If he can't see it, get a new L who can.
Puppy
Actually, L sat down with me and we calculated expenses--including things I wouldn't have thought of. So he has the numbers for reference. In fact, he has all the numbers, except of course H's "contributions."
So is he going to WAIT, for your already-scheduled court date, or is he going to file some sort of immediate action on your behalf???
I'm hoping he's going to do something quicker--such as calling H's lawyer and remind her he's going to look really bad in court unless he pays some support.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
"Hoping" isn't for the Woman of Action that I know, G. If that's the plan, then instruct your L to do that. If the plan is to wait it out financially until you get to your regular court date, b/c you're very purposefully building a case that will make your husband look bad (and rightfully so), then do that -- IF you can make it until then and still have enough $$$ for your daughter's basic needs.
Or move aggressively for an order of temporary alimony and child support.
"Hoping" isn't for the Woman of Action that I know, G. If that's the plan, then instruct your L to do that. If the plan is to wait it out financially until you get to your regular court date, b/c you're very purposefully building a case that will make your husband look bad (and rightfully so), then do that -- IF you can make it until then and still have enough $$$ for your daughter's basic needs.
Or move aggressively for an order of temporary alimony and child support.
But don't just "hope."
Puppy
Thanks, Pup--I have sent an email with specifics about money H has provided, as well as forwarding some emails from past months between H and I which indicate a major change in attitude once he got his apt (I didn't realize that until I reviewed them), and said I need help IMMEDIATELY. Also said that I will follow up with a phone call this afternoon. I am doing more than hoping, that was just my way of stating it. I wrote it in a way that it can be entered into the case paperwork as well. Lordy--he's given me nothing willingly since late September--really, since my first paycheck. On the 2 occasions I asked for $$, I had to get a lecture about it being hard to give me money when I'm angry (bs all the way around) and the second time he made me promise to pay him back. Which I can't/won't. So over 2 months he's provided $350 in support.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Honestly, sometimes I think you are going for sainthood!
Seriously, there is no nobility in sitting and suffering in silence. Was this lawyer recommended by someone you know? Because he sure seems to be dropping the ball on this one.....
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
I've known my lawyer for 30 years; got me through my first D far better than anticipated (and that was an ugly one too). This is part of his strategy to make H look as foolish as possible in front of the judge, but I think he underestimated the severity of my situation.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
