Yes, H did say he didn't want to talked about it because he doesn't want to think about her, ever. Wants her to be forgotten. But how can you forget about someone they claim to have loved once and your suppose to not ever talk about how that effects you. He now says that he didn't really think it was love, but from this side it sure looked and felt like it was. Risking everything for the OP is mindboggling. Thanks for letting me view the other side.

M 45
H 42

D 26
D 18
S 16

Married 19 years
Together 24 years
ILYBNILWY 1/7/08
OW 10/11/07
ended affair 3/14/08
came home 3/14/08
last contacted ow 3/17/08
4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.