Dianes Roller Coaster Ride continued... lol

[Jayce]

Cinco, thanks for the ear plug idea. If the problem were only the snoring, no big deal. With sleep apnea, snoring is the least of the problem. Besides that I can hear him stop breathing if I'm awake, he wakes up many times (35 or more) in an hour. Only for a couple seconds. To be aware you're awake takes 6-7 seconds or more, so you never know you woke up. Your body does, tho. This interrupts the normal flow of sleep phases. It also cuts down oxygen intake (he gets down to 80%)and raises the heart rate. Your heart can only rest between beats, so a low heart rate during sleep is vital. The higher heart rate, lower oxygen & interrupted phases leads to heart attacks, strokes, type 2 diabetes, depression, irritability, falling asleep during the day, ED and loss of libido. That's what I meant by being hard to lie there listening to him snore cuz I know its gradually killing him.

H doesn't always snore all night and sometimes not every night, but he still does the waking up. Our friend has had a CPAP for 7 years. They found he was waking up 100 times an hour! Think he was tired all the time? Drives a bus. Wife was afraid he'd fall asleep & crash a bus full of people. 85% of men w/apnea were dragged (kicking & screaming?) to the Dr. by their wives!

The resp. therapist is changing the machine he's using for one that has more variable air flow. (I tried his Sun. nite & can see why he felt out of breath from it). He's agreed to try the new one. After 2 wks, then they can set the correct air flow so he'll be comfortable.

I hope the CT scan shows the lymph node's enlarged cuz of an infection...something easy to fix. I'm scared to death its lung cancer or lymphoma. His family has history w/cancer including his bro's death from lung cancer. On that cheery, optimistic note I'll move on to a question for you:

If your wife didn't have LD & you knew you could have sex any time you wanted, would it be on your mind all the time like it is now? The minute my H said he had no libido & didn't care, it was all I could think about. Even with the improvement over these long months, its never far from my mind. Back when life was normal..if it ever was.... I only thought about it maybe half the time. How about you? I'd add LOL, but you might not be into dark humor.
J