Thanks Silent chrleader, Kalni and Tipper:

It is possible for it to happen again, and did. I don't know why I need to see for myself but there it is, he gave me a description so I know more or less but that is not enough, I know it will hurt me in the end but the need to know is great even if it means it may be over, he calls it sabotaging and that I have been doing it and that was exactly what he was doing when I was trying to keep my marriage together, the table has turned. I think it's important to discuss A get it all out. Everything, should be disclosed, to be done with it. It's his unwillingness to be transparent that is driving me to end this, I can forgive, but it won't be easy and I won't forget the pain won't let me forget. I'm trying and feel ready to get past this but the lies and omissions have got to stop and I tell him this but H's philosophy has always been deny, deny, deny.


M 45
H 42

D 26
D 18
S 16

Married 19 years
Together 24 years
ILYBNILWY 1/7/08
OW 10/11/07
ended affair 3/14/08
came home 3/14/08
last contacted ow 3/17/08
4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.