{{{{{{{Beth}}}}}}}}}} There is no real "messing it up"..no one is going to be "our version of perfect" all of the time..it's just too hard and too much pressure on ourselves..again trying to measure up to some standard you know?

Give yourself a break..even the people that give us the "Tough love 2 x 4's "we need on here are doing it with love and not in a "you are not good enough kind of way"..I'm so glad you are doing better and for me it is a process too..do I miss my hub, even tho he's still in the same house, YES..more than I can say..do I feel better about the sitch and not so "desperate", yes..I have found I can still have fun with the kids without him here/with us, I can still take care of most things I need to, I am an okay person LOL \:\)

As far as detaching, I think each person is different in that some personalities/people can probably instantly detach and compartmentalize easier than others..I can't, I'm much more emotionally driven that than..but it has gotten better in the past 6 weeks..and for you too..

Still wish I had someone to hang out with on those Fri/Sat bluesy nights..but oh well..baby steps for all of us \:\)

Hugs to you my friend and thanks for checking on me {{{Beth}}}

Tawnya

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